My wife and I homeschool, and we have firm beliefs about dating (more on that in a future post). With three teenagers in the house we have more opportunities (oh joy!) for our kids to go to dances. I can barely contain myself!
Kids grinding. bumping. writhing…
My daughters – over. my. cold. dead. body. My son, well I’ll have to keep him from being the one who grinds, bumps, and writhes now that he has firmly established that he doesn’t believe girls have cooties anymore.
So I developed some rules that I passed on to my kids the other night with prom (the homeschool educational coop two of my kids go to weekly offers one) on the horizon.
1. Leave room for the Holy Spirit. He’s huge and He needs space, so give it to Him.
2. You can not bend your arms… the straight elbow rule. If you bend your elbows, there’s no way you’re leaving room for the Holy Spirit (see rule one). No spaghetti arms!
3. The default distance is the person with the longest arms, so I told my son if his dance partner has longer arms than he does so be it. She didn’t need his hands on her waist anyway.
4. In order to find some way to violate the spirit of the straight elbow rule, your body must be perpendicular to the floor. No angling in. That too would be a violation of rule #1.
My kids laughed. They thought I was joking…
So what rules have you laid down for your kids in the area of dating, dances, courtship, etc?